Our couples therapy after the betrayals (yes, plural 🙄) did call out my ex husband repeatedly and it was pure gold. Not that I got a pass but he was fair in his assessment of the problem. I continued with him in therapy after the divorce because of this. It was nice to see a male therapist do this, and it's interesting that you had the opposite experience with a female therapist. And yes, couples therapy with anyone with significant narcissistic traits or arrested development will not be successful and will just make things worse.
Our couples therapy after the betrayals (yes, plural 🙄) did call out my ex husband repeatedly and it was pure gold. Not that I got a pass but he was fair in his assessment of the problem. I continued with him in therapy after the divorce because of this. It was nice to see a male therapist do this, and it's interesting that you had the opposite experience with a female therapist. And yes, couples therapy with anyone with significant narcissistic traits or arrested development will not be successful and will just make things worse.